I'm stuck

I have been married over 30 years and have no real hope that my husband will be the man I had hoped he would be when I married him so long ago. I quit arguing years ago because he is so forceful that it did no good for me to attempt to express my needs. I try to stay as active with other friends and family, and it helps some. I won't divorce because I don't believe in it, but that just means that I have to endure. I have plenty of years left in me, I suppose, but I don't look forward to growing old with him. I wish one of us would die, and I have no particular preference which one. I know that sounds extreme, but that is how I feel.
I'm not going to do anything drastic, but I often feel like I am just biding my time. When we are both home I just stay out of his way and say as little as I have to.

dr. les has a video series on controllers and appeasers at www.marriagemate.com/d10s2.html

there is hope and we hope it helps!