my husband's anger

I have attempted many times to talk with my husband about his anger. One false move by one of the kids and he is screaming at them. They dread him coming home because they know that he is so critical. My question is to know how much I should say to the kids to let them know I agree with THEM. I don't want to undermind his authority but I want them to know that I see what they see and I think they have a legitimate complaint.

i don't think it's wrong for you to let your kids know when you disagree with their dad. as long as you do it in a positive and constructive manner, they will learn to form their own opinions and be independent in thought. there is nothing wrong with the emotion of anger, it's how we express it to others.

Think of it this way. Let's suppose they see their dad rage constantly and you never say anything to them about it. You would have no credibility because they would see you in collusion with him or that you are totally helpless. They need to hear from you so they can believe it is ok to develop their separate thoughts. You would then be a model to them, not an enabler.