http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/-t1.htm Sat, 18 Apr 2009 12:44:21 GMT 10 http://i89.servimg.com/u/f89/13/79/35/00/not_ha10.gif http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/-t1.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/talking-to-a-brick-wall-t30.htm Anonymous James is one of those guys who is actually comfortable talking about personal matters. He likes taking time to gather information and he is flexible enough to recognize that his wife, Elaine, will have separate feelings or preferences. His complaint, however, is that Elaine has a stubborn streak that sabotages successful communication. Unlike him, when it is time to settle differences, she will make herself emotionally unavailable. She often uses the silent treatment to let James know that ... Communications Sat, 18 Apr 2009 12:44:21 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/talking-to-a-brick-wall-t30.htm#50 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/talking-to-a-brick-wall-t30.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/bad-communication-t3.htm Anonymous I know that men have the reputation for not wanting to talk about feelings, but I really like to discuss personal issues with my wife. Here is the problem. When I have to talk with her about a problem, she is enormously defensive to the extent of being ridiculous. She'll storm out of the room or she'll turn her anger on me and I'm stunned. I really want to be a good communicator but it is crazy that we can't talk about the simplest differences without her having a meltdown. I'm pulling away. Communications Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:11:46 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/bad-communication-t3.htm#3 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/communications-f7/bad-communication-t3.htm