http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/-t1.htm Sat, 30 May 2009 14:17:30 GMT 10 http://i89.servimg.com/u/f89/13/79/35/00/not_ha10.gif http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/-t1.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/won-t-fight-fair-t110.htm Anonymous I really try hard to be adult-like when my husband and I disagree. I like the idea of thinking that I can express myself with firmness but also with courtesy. My problem is that my husband is so thin skinned that even when I think I am textbook perfect in expressing my concerns he will either go into a blaming fit or he won't talk to me for the rest of the day. It's like dealing with a child. I can't get him to understand that my efforts to resolve conflict are driven by love, not hate, and that ... Conflict, Fighting, Discord Sat, 30 May 2009 14:17:30 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/won-t-fight-fair-t110.htm#361 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/won-t-fight-fair-t110.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/my-old-reputation-t68.htm Anonymous In the first ten years of my marriage my wife and I used to fight like cats and dogs. I would go after her verbally like a tiger. Then we went to an excellent marriage encounter retreat and it hit me like a ton of bricks that what I was doing was abusive. She was just as guilty as me, but I was the leader of the family and needed to set a different pace. In the last ten years I have made major strides at curbing my anger. I doubt I have yelled twice in that stretch of time. Yet when my wife wants ... Conflict, Fighting, Discord Sat, 02 May 2009 02:06:36 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/my-old-reputation-t68.htm#193 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/conflict-fighting-discord-f51/my-old-reputation-t68.htm