http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/-t1.htm Fri, 01 May 2009 12:22:21 GMT 10 http://i89.servimg.com/u/f89/13/79/35/00/not_ha10.gif http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/-t1.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/is-it-too-much-t37.htm Anonymous My husband hurt his back on the job, several months ago. He has been in and out of the specialists office, and has been taking pain medication. Although surgery is a last resort, the pain medication seems to be the only thing that helps. However, he has to take more and more to ease the pain. I swear it is changing his moods. He is less involved with our children and family. He is cranky, and distant all the time. If he doesn't get his medication on time he becomes angry. He doesn't think that ... Alcohol/Substance Abuse Tue, 21 Apr 2009 14:30:12 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/is-it-too-much-t37.htm#70 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/is-it-too-much-t37.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/separation-t59.htm Anonymous How many others out ther are separated from their spouses? I have been for a few years. We're way over the angry screaming or jealousy phase. We have become very good friens. I asked him the other night if he wuold like to talk about sex between us again in a non-threatening atmosphere. He didn't want to because we were in a busy restauranr. I will attempt to talk to him again. It's been many years. Not sure how it would feel to be lovers w/ him again. Any suggestions? Alcohol/Substance Abuse Fri, 01 May 2009 12:22:21 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/separation-t59.htm#175 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/separation-t59.htm http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/alcohol-is-his-first-priority-t45.htm Anonymous In public, people would be surprised to know that my husband is more committed to his beer and scotch than he is to me. He can give the appearance of being friendly when we are in a social setting, but once we are out of the limelight, he ignores me and just drinks. We never go to bed at the same time because he stays up watching tv and drinking. This is every night. I've attempted to discuss my concerns with him but he is so full of rationalization that he can out debate me and make me feel ... Alcohol/Substance Abuse Fri, 24 Apr 2009 00:40:50 GMT http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/alcohol-is-his-first-priority-t45.htm#103 http://marriagemateforum.forumotion.com/alcohol-substance-abuse-f12/alcohol-is-his-first-priority-t45.htm